Dear Mary, Caroline & Paula So very sorry to hear this sad news. Sending you all lots of love & hugs. I loved the beautiful tributes and photos celebrating his wonderful and very full life. Duncan was a great friend and colleague during our many years at Seagram together. He was a great mentor and always available to offer support and a listening ear. Remembering some of the funny times we had and loads of laughs is the highlight for me. Can’t believe it is now over 30 years ago. RIP Duncan Arohanui

Our Dad was a true English gentleman. Clever, loyal, humorous, respectful, honorable and so kind. He hardly raised his voice, but if he did, we knew we’d gone too far. Dad opened his doors to anyone who needed it, and many friends and boyfriends lived with us over the years (Poor Dad) and came to love him as we did. There was always food on the stove, or in the fridge, to make sure everyone was looked after, whether they were staying or just passing through. As well as friends, we had a collection of pets about the house; birds, rabbits, cats, a dog and even a horse, which he washed at the top of the driveway! Dad was a passionate parent supporter, & transporter, for any of our school netball & hockey games, cheering us along, sometimes with the dog at his side. As we grew up, he loved having all the friends over before we went out of a night, and he could always be counted on if you were stuck in town at 1am with no way home. Dad was there to help us move out and move back in again, and then move out and back in again, without a second thought. He always had an ear to listen and good advice to give; he liked a button up shirt no matter the occasion & always had a handkerchief handy. We feel so lucky our sons have grown up knowing their Granddad & will always know how proud he was of them. They have great memories spent together at the driving range, on the sports fields, and from the recent trip we all had to Australia for his 80th birthday. Our Dad; a kind soul and a true gentleman You will forever be in our hearts Caroline & Paula xx xx

My dear Duncan - what an amazing life we have had together, from 1969 to now. Experiences we have shared many times overseas, two beautiful daughters and three amazing grandchildren. We feel blessed to have had you in our lives and you will leave a gaping hole in ours forever. Rest in peace now you have come through a lot these past two years and have dealt with it admirably. Beannachd Leibh Mary xxxxxxx

Duncan Miller was for some years a colleague and friend at work. He was helpful and generous with his time, a man of integrity and goodwill. I am sorry that I was unable to attend his funeral. My sympathy to Mary and their family. Fides Servanda Est Warwick Bell

Dear Mary, Caroline, Paula, John, Zackari, Braeden and Dylan. I am so sorry for your loss. What a great husband, father and grandfather. His memories will live on and his character show through all of you. Rest in love Duncan Xox

A quiet spoken natural gentleman. In the words of Tom Paxton "He was a man and a friend always." He made a difference to the world around him and he did it with modesty and a lightness of touch. As his little brother I knew I could always turn to big brother for moral support and constructive advice. Who. now, will remember Tcherombo, Budongo, Tweedles, Kaptagat, Jinja, Entebbe, Kampala, Eldoret and so many others? Bruce

A father to many...... never a truer word spoken. I will never forget the kindness and generosity shown us by Duncan (and family) when we literally had no roof over our heads. He welcomed us with open arms and cared for us when we needed it. For this I am forever grateful. Such a kind, loving man. My deepest condolences to all of the family. Much love xxx Paula

Dear Mary, Our deepest condolences for your loss. We remember Duncan as a fine gentleman, who was not only a wonderful colleague at Saint Kentigern Trust but also someone who brightened our days with his great sense of humor. His years of dedicated service left an indelible mark on our organisation, and we hold many fond memories of his contributions. Duncan cared deeply about making a difference in our organisation and in the lives of those around him. As you, your family, and friends come together to celebrate the life of a much-loved person, please know that our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

Dear Mary, The first time I met Duncan,60 years ago, he was working in London whilst living in Epsom. I’’ll always remember, one night he returned home, so proud of himself ,as he had managed to find an avocado for his mum. She was delighted. As for me, I had never seen or tasted one. and he was so pleased with himself. Duncan was a pleasure to be with, always kind, very gentle and great fun. I’m so glad I managed to meet him again on your last trip to Scotland. It was as though no time had lapsed…. just 43 years !! Dear Mary, I can’t tell you how sad it was to hear of his death. All I can say is try to remember the good times you had together and that , along with your loving family will see you through. Lots of love and sympathy to you all. Thelma

To Mary, Caroline and Paula and family. Breaks my heart we´ve lost such a special man. May he be in a better place. Love you all The Henderson family

Beautiful Duncan. My many special memories of this spectacular Man and I would say second father to many of us growing up throughout our teenage years. Duncan always making sure we were well feed with his amazing meals and made everyone feel welcome like their home was ours. Duncan never judged anyone and was always the nicest, kindhearted man in the world. Love and thoughts to you Mary, Pauls and Caroline. Rest in peace xxx

Hi Mary, I am so sorry to hear about Duncan. He is such a lovely man and will be sorely missed. I am sad I am not there to be with you all at this sad time. All my love to you and the girls at this very sad time. God bless Mo Carroll

Ah Mary, I am so sorry to hear this news. I am sending you all my love. Yes, you are absolutely right that it is good that he didn’t suffer and that he was so well on the trip. Ah Mary I am so sorry. I’m so pleased to hear the girls have been amazing support for you. I hope the boys are doing as OK as can be. Will be thinking of you all and sending all our love and a tight hug. Lots of love xxxx Jo

Oh Mary, can't believe it, I was waiting to hear from you. My heart is breaking for you and the girls. No words just told Kerry. May you find love and comfort in each other at this awful time. Our love to you all and just anything we can do to help. XX❤️ Ion and Kerry

Sending you, the girls and all the family loads of love and sympathy. He was such an astonishing and amazing man. I’m so glad we got to see him recently, it’s a memory I’ll treasure forever Mary. Love in loads to you. You are so much in our thoughts at this sad, sad time xx Ewen Miller

Hi Mary - that's sad news indeed - these golden years aren't exactly gilt edged are they!!. I'm pleased that you have a lovely wider family there to support you - it certainly takes a bit of getting used to being on your own. Love from me. xxx Robyn

Omg Mary I'm sooo sorry, Thank you so much for letting me know 💜. Mary you were such an amazing wife, I'm so glad you got your holiday together and created some special memories ❤️. So glad your beautiful daughters are there. Take care Mary, keep me updated xx🌻 Cheryl

Oh Mary, that’s absolutely terrible and so heartbreaking for you and your lovely family. I’m so glad you had your wonderful overseas adventure so recently, and in time you will be able to remember those happy times. I hope he didn’t suffer too much and that he is at peace. Now is when you do the suffering sadly. If you think of anything I can help with regarding the funeral or anything else, please let me know. I will notify your Westlake friends. In the meantime, please accept Brendan and I’s sincere condolences on the loss of our dear friend, your wonderful soulmate, Duncan. ❤️Sandra and Brendan

Hi Mary, We are so sorry to hear of Duncan’s passing. Our thoughts and love are with you all. Love from Allen & Phyl. ❤

So sorry to hear of Duncan's passing. He was such a lovely man, a true gentleman. Janet had let me know, and I was wondering when the funeral was. I have let Jane Kneale and Alison Watt know. Carina

Definitely plan to be there. After all these years you have been my most constant friends. We shared a lot in our early years. We had good times together. Shared parenting stories and agonies as well as laughs, gardening tips, etc etc. no way he is going without me saying goodbye to my old friend. Xxxx Nath

Hello lovey lady I have been thinking about you these last few days 🥰 I hope you are doing okay we are sending lots of love to you at this sad time, we both have fond memories of the times we spent in the company of you and Duncan a very wise and engaging gentleman. Take care xx Julia & Hugh

Dear Mary, I was devastated to hear the news about Duncan. I will always remember him as a true gentleman with a very kind heart. Am so happy that you travelled the world together after you retired, and you will have many beautiful memories to hold close to your heart. I will be thinking of you on Wednesday as we are in Queensland. Embrace the tears and hold your family close. All my love Pam xxxx

Dear Mary, I learned yesterday of Duncan's passing. I am so sorry for your loss. 🥀🌹 We will all miss Duncan here in the village. Mary, I am only few doors away from you and my door is always open to you. If I can be of help at any time just let me know. Thinking of you, Bodil

Mary, Sending loving thoughts - treasure your memories of wonderful times, especially the travels you and Duncan had recently. Lots of love, Heather xx

Hello Mary, Don here from the Price Waterhouse boys. So sad to hear Duncan has passed away. l have lovely warm memories of working with him and his kind caring soft nature. Best wishes to you. Don Colebourne

Mary so sorry to hear that sad news. We send our condolences to you and all the family. Duncan did so well to get through the throat cancer and all treatments. Yes, it was such a disappointment not getting to Aberdeen. But at least you and Duncan made it and had a good time. Take care of yourself and keep in touch. Love Pamela and Roger xx

Dear Mary Thank you for letting me know the sad news of Duncan. I have happy memories of my time I worked with Duncan at Saint Kentigern College he was a true Gentleman, and we enjoyed happy times over the years along with other Staff. My thoughts are with you and your Family at this time. Kind regards Rosemary

Dear Mary, We are very sorry to hear that sadly Duncan has died. The news from Duncan on your return home saying he had liver cancel must have come as a shock. You and the girls must be devastated, and our heartfelt sympathies are with you all. Duncan has been a good friend for many years although of course we have rarely been able to meet up. It was good however that we were able to see you both in New Zealand on one occasion and meet on your infrequent visits to the U.K. It was also great that Duncan was able to meet up with us all for a day in Cambridge. It was a good day, and we will cherish the memories. Your trip together, seeing all your family and friends sounded fantastic. Duncan sent us a lovely email detailing all the visits. Our thoughts are with you and the family. Kind regards Love Carole and Mick

Oh Mary, I am so sorry to hear this. No matter what diagnosis or prognosis Duncan had, I realize nothing prepares you for the loss of your life partner. You will be so glad that you have the girls close by you at this time. I am happy I saw you both only a few months ago, and you must have beautiful memories from your round the world tour. Thank goodness you were both brave enough to undertake it - I presume you must have known at the time that Duncan was so ill. With the overseas locations of my aunt and uncle, as cousins go, Duncan and I really spent very little time together, only a few family holidays but I have always had such happy memories of the time spent with my “big” cousins. I feel the different lifestyle of our parents was a loss to us all, and I’m glad I had the chance to spend a bit of time with you both in Waneka and Auckland. I hope we can see you again when you decide the time is right to venture back to the UK to visit your own family. Our love to all of you at this sad time. Jacky xx

Dear Mary, I am so so sorry to hear about Duncan. I know exactly how you feel. It is very hard to accept but such a comfort to have the family nearby. It is a cliche to say it will get better over time, but I am not so sure about that although I guess it will eventually. My thoughts are with you. Please let me know when funeral is, if you can. From a dear long-distance friend. Dot Xxx

Mary, Please accept my condolences to you and your family. I was mentored by Duncan at PW and fondly remember my time working with him and the other expats that joined the office in the 1970's. Some years later I also worked with Caroline at PW. Kind regards Neil Chalmers

Mary, I'm deeply saddened to learn of the passing of my dear friend Duncan. He is very very simply one of the finest men I've ever met, and he will be forever in my heart. Aroha nui to you and your family. Clive. Gulf Rise Retirement Village - Red Beach

Dear Mary We were very shocked to hear Duncan had died, though we knew from his last email that the cancer had spread we hadn't realized how bad it was. For us our last memories of Duncan were very happy ones, spending the day with him in Cambridge, the years fell away, and it was like old times, in many ways he never seemed to change. Barry has often told the story of the two of them aged 14 building a tandem (assembled from bits picked up from the rubbish tip) and with no brakes careering down the hill near his family home wondering how to stop it. The problem was solved eventually when they crashed into a hedge. Tonight, we shall sit on the patio with a glass of red wine and remember him with great affection. We send you and all your family our love at this very sad time. Barry and Jill x

Dear Mary, I hope you are holding up well. I have no doubt that you will have the best support from everyone. I am in Findhorn at the moment with memories flooding my brain. The first time Hugh brought me here, lots of firsts like … the first time I met my NZ family. I was very nervous. Duncan and Bruce came to the airport to collect us. Duncan had the most infectious smile and a twinkle in his eye. You all made me feel so welcome. I did take while to understand, he took a while to answer. I thought I’d spoken clearly but no, he was considering, not one to be rushed or fazed by things.!! Which included road traffic in Leith (I was driving the boys about revisiting places of their youth, school, family homes) He got out to take photos stood in middle of the road and drifted somehow onto the roundabout… not fazed, kept taking his photos. I’ll miss him hugely. In your most recent visit, he was so caring as I was little mobile, mind you it gave him the excuse to visit the fridge… a challenge for me, to find what was left for the evening meal!! Sending lots of love and hugs to you and the family. Xx June

Dear Mary, We were so sad to hear that Duncan had died so suddenly, it must have been so devastating as you say for you and all of your family, and our thoughts are with you all. Having only last week had the lovely email from Duncan and yourself enthusing about your round the world trip, we find it so hard to believe that he has died. We were so fortunate to have had the opportunity to meet up in Cambridge a few months ago and Duncan was in such good form. We all go back a very long time together and it was lovely to catch up with all of the news and have a few laughs together. I have told all of the other friends here in the UK and they are all very sad and shocked. He will be so greatly missed by all who knew him and all of the friends and relatives you met over the World wide tour, but most of all by you and all of your family. Thinking of you all, Love Roger and Lesley

Dear Mary, We are very sad to hear your devastating news about Duncan. Our thoughts are with you and the girls. We have many wonderful memories of good times with Dunc and will be sharing some of those with you in the near future. We will be thinking about you on Wednesday and hope that you will be able to focus on the many wonderful times you spent together. Love Barry & Christine

Dear Mary, I have just learned of Duncan's unexpected death and am very, very sorry to hear of his passing. It seems not long ago - one or two years? - that I saw him when I was shopping at Farro's. He was his usual friendly, gentle and kind self. We exchanged a few sentences then went on our way. It was the first time that I had seen him in many years. It was a long time ago when yourself, Duncan, Kerry and I used to socialize. It was always a pleasant experience. Duncan quietly amusing with his pipe in his mouth or hand. Such a lovely man. I always liked you both. Do you remember how you and I went to see Cliff on stage? Happy memories. Please accept my sincere condolences, Mary. Kristine 0211274743

Duncan was a wonderful friend who I met on my arrival in NZ in 1971. Mary made the friendship even more wonderful. Duncan was a proper gentleman and will be sorely missed by me and many others. Rest in peace Duncan.