23 June 1995 – 26 December 2024
23 June 1995 – 26 December 2024
BLACKBURN, Mitchell Oliver Thomas:
23/06/1995 - 26/12/2024, Aged 29.
Most dearly loved and precious #1 son of Sharon (Shaz). Most loved lil bro and best friend of Danielle. Loved and treasured grandson of Kay and Vic and the late Jeanette. Dearly loved son and stepson of Steph, Katie, Richard, Gary and Cliff. Loved nephew of Darren and Quanetta. Much loved go to cuzzy and friend of Tyler and Kaycee. Loved by his fur brothers Jaxom and Murphy. Much loved by his extended family and his many friends.
"Sad are the hearts that loved you, silent are the tears that fall. Living our lives without you, is the saddest part of all"
Shaz, Danielle and their family would like to thank emergency services, ICU staff of Christchurch Public Hospital, Sharon Russell along with Gilliver and Tyler for their dedicated care of Mitchell. The family are extremely thankful for the love and support shown to their family at this time. Messages to the family C/- PO Box 35, Rangiora 7440.Mitchell will remain in our hearts forever.
“Forever young, Forever loved, Forever in our hearts"
26th of the month… 15 months today since you gained your wings, my son 15 months, the calendar tells me. 457 days. Yet to me, it still feels like I’m stuck right back in that moment… like time moved on, but I didn’t. People say it’s “just a number”… but it’s not. It’s 457 days of missing you, 457 days of waking up and facing a world without you in it. Some days it feels like I’m not really living… just existing, just surviving. Waking up, getting through the day, then doing it all over again tomorrow. Everything feels the same. Nothing really changes. I’m so tired… tired of the ache, tired of the emptiness, tired of the no energy, tired of pretending I’m okay when I’m not 💔 I miss you more than words will ever be able to say. I carry you with me everyday in everything I do, every single day. Forever my son. Forever in my heart 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Today, as I reflect back on this day 12 months ago with a heavy heart — that's not only filled with sadness, but also so much love for you my beautiful boy. Twelve months ago today, we gathered to celebrate your life, the love in that room reminds me how deeply you are loved and missed. As your mum, I want to say thank you to those who continue to support me. Thank you for your patience, your kindness, and for allowing me to grieve in my own way. Some days are harder than others, but your love helps me keep going. Thank you to the wonderful Sharon Russell for delivering such a beautiful, heartfelt service that honoured my boy so wonderfully, that was filled with love, laughter and music. We couldn't have asked for anyone better, just thank you. To my partner, thank you for standing by my side with unwavering love as we navigate this new kind of life together. To my daughter, thank you for your constant love, strength, and light. To our family and friends who have walked beside us with patience, kindness, and understanding — thank you for holding us up when our hearts felt too heavy to carry on alone. I miss you every day Mitchell, my beautiful boy. Forever loved, forever missed and forever my #1 son. Though you are no longer here in the way I wish, I feel your love around me every day — guiding me, comforting me, and reminding me that you are always with me. Your love gives me strength to keep moving forward, even on the hardest days. Everywhere I go, you come too xxxxxxxx
Hey son, The calendar turns, but love stays. Another year begins without my son who forever changed my heart. I step into this year not "moving on,", but moving with-carrying memories, saying your name, holding space for both tears and gratitude. This year doesn't ask me to be strong. It asks me to be honest. To rest when I need to. To remember that love is not measured by time. You Mitchell are part of every year I enter. Everywhere I go, you come too son always & forever xxxxxxxx
Hey son, so the day has come marking your 1st angelversary, 12 months. 365 days. 8,700 hours. 525,600 minutes —without you 💔 like really how can this be when I feel like I was just with you somehow, racing down to be with you after receiving a phone call no parent ever wants, sitting at your bedside, holding your hand, talking to you, kissing your beautiful face, just loving you, yet the calendar tells me different. Everyone & everything has moved on around me leaving me back in time. 12 months son, no back breaking hugs, no phone calls, no hey mum's, no silly jokes, no hey mum can ya borrow me a 20$, no silly photos, no nothing - I miss absolutely everything about you son. You came into my world my precious baby boy 9 pounds and 11 & half ounces (don't forget the half) and now the weight of losing you is so hard to carry and will be forever. I picked out your 1st outfit you came home in from the hospital and I also had to pick out your last, it wasn't meant to be this way son, its all the wrong order of how it was meant to be, however your wings were ready, just my heart was not, I wasn't finished loving you here and will always keep on loving you til Im with you once more where I'll never let you go. I'm doing my best to keep on without you here in my present but it is so bloody hard son. A huge part of me died with you that day. You were my absolute pride & joy, I would've done anything that day to have you back, or trade places with you. I promise I’ll keep your name alive for as long as I live & I promise to take care of your sister, your family, your people. You leaving me so soon has forever changed my life as I knew it, turning my world upside down and breaking my heart into millions of pieces. Today son your sister and I honored & celebrated your with getting tattoos for you. Son, you are forever loved & forever missed way beyond words xx
My most precious son you left my world 11 months ago today where I have survived 335 days since then learning how to live with the breakdowns, sleepless nights, bouts of depression trying desperately to make this new reality work. Stuck between the keep going and hitting a brick wall. I don't know if or when this grief will release its grip on me, I doubt it ever will. I feel constant heartache everyday. Mitchell, your absence has been more than I can take most days. I hear your voice, your laugh in my head clinging to it like oxygen and then think to myself would it really be that bad if I gave up the fight, son I'm tired of holding onto memories of what was and the never will be. I tell myself I'm one day closer to seeing you again, and then there's a memory that reminds me it's one more day without you. The nights can be long and lonely, the constant weight that I carry everyday, not knowing who I am anymore with such a huge piece of me missing. At the end of the day son I just miss everything about you beyond words & know that you are with me everyday. I love you BIGtime son always have & always will, I just miss you terribly, there are just no words to describe how much. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Hey son, as I sit here outdoors thinking of you even more thinking back to that day where my heart was broken beyond repair. 10 months son 10 long yet not so long months. 10 months ago today I was sitting with you holding your hand, kissing your beautiful face, holding you ever so tightly hoping that you would stay, I would have given my life to save yours, yet it wasn't too be. You were ready to fly high yet I was not ready for you to go, you didn't tell my heart how I was supposed to live without you here. I speak of you with love and with pride forever grateful that you choose me as your Mum, it just wasn't long enough as I hadn't finished loving you the way it was meant to be. There really are no words to describe how I feel, it hurts like nothing I've ever felt before I feel so incomplete without you by my side 💔 I've never not seen you ever for this long son, to say I'm forever broken would be an understatement. I feel frozen in time somehow. You are and will always be a part of me, forever in my heart & soul until I get to be with you once again where I'll never let you go. I feel like I have 2 life's now, 1 here and the other part up there always looking for you. Thank you for your signs that you give me bringing me some kind of comfort somehow. You're always with me son, every where I go you come too. Love you BIGtime my #1 son with all my heart always & beyond 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚 xxxxxxxx
Son, how is it 9 months ago today that you gained your wings where I have now survived 274 days without you here. I've had to learn how to live with the breakdowns, sleepless nights, bouts of depression, crying like I've never cried before, trying desperately to make this new reality work. I feel constant heartache, living in a daze & disbelief trying to navigate my life without you here trying to keep going when the days are hard always looking up & around me looking. You are constantly with me everyday where you will always be. Mitchell, your absence has been more than I can take trying to comprehend any of this finding myself now living in 2 worlds. I'm tired of holding onto memories of what was and what will never be. I tell myself every day that I survive that I'm one day closer to seeing you again, where I'll get to hug you once again where I'll never you go to and to kiss your beautiful face once again, and then there's a memory that reminds me it's one more day without you. Son, I love you and miss you terribly son way beyond anything I can put into words. I love you son as big as the moon and the stars always xxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Hey my boy, 8 months = 243 days without you son, 243 days where my heart was broken into thousands of tiny pieces, my life as I knew it changed completely, changed forever. 243 days it would be an understatement to say that I'm just existing each day, surviving one step at a time, one hour at a time, one task at a time, every day is so hard son & some days are even harder. This is & has been a rollercoaster ride of emotions, trying to adapt somehow, yet nothing feels right anymore cos i'ts not. I can't even believe its been 243 days, all still so raw, so fresh in my mind as if it just happened yesterday. I feel frozen in time somehow while the world & people move on without me. You son was 1 of 2 of my greatest gifts in life and will always be 1 of my greatest gifts, I'll be forever grateful that you choose me as your Mum, yet I'm so extremely sad that it was cut short, my dreams, my hopes, everything I wanted for you gone way too soon 💔 you'll forever be my baby boy, my #1 son & my friend. There are no words to say how much I miss you son. I have 2 lives now with one foot here & one foot there, my heart broken in 2 living in 2 places now, I look for you within my day & love the wee signs you send me. I loved you right from the start son & will never stop loving you for the amazing young man you are with your big heart. At the end of the day I just miss everything about you. I love you as big as the moon and the stars always & forever my most precious son 💚💚
The 26th is just a number to many but for me its the day that broke my heart in ways I never thought possible or ever imagined 💔 7 months without you here with me son is just so uncomprendable, like how is this even possible. People continue about their lives yet for me my life stopped and has changed forever that no words can ever describe. I miss you more than anyone knows, I cry , I smile and play my part yet what no one sees is my broken heart 💔 This month has been that bit harder with having a bday and not hearing from you as I always do. I love and miss absolutely everything about you son. You are as always a big part of my day & everywhere I go you come too. Forever Young, Forever Missed, Forever Loved and Forever My #1 Son xxxxxxxx
Thursday 26th the day that broke my heart beyond words, 182 days without you son 💔 how can it be 6 months. This week has been a whirlwind of emotions, bitter sweet as it was your 30th birthday on Monday where we celebrated & honored you the best we could. None of this is right & will never be right, so many unanswered questions & the why you. I'll be forever grateful for the time we had, just was not long enough. You are my first thought every morning, my last thought every night & throughout my day. Half of me now lives here the other half in heaven with you. I miss absolutely everything about you son. This journey isnt & hasn't been at all easy as I navigate & adapt to life with you. What I wouldn't give for one more day, one more hug yet that still wouldn't be enough. Thank you for being my son, and looking over me as I face each day that have had some challenges along the way & for the signs you send in your own special way. You are always with me son & forever have that piece of my heart that you took with you. You, your life, your memories are kept alive within me as you are talked of so often with love. There are no words to describe how I feel, how much I miss & love you, just know that you are forever with me, forever in my heart until I have you back in my arms when I meet you there. Love you as big as the moon & the stars always xxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Missing you more than words can ever say son. You are & will be forever in my heart always xxxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Think of you everyday son, miss you & love you beyond words. Forever My #1 Son xxxxxxxx
Hey son, 5 months today you gained your angel wings breaking my heart into a million pieces. You are my first thought every morning, my last thought before I go to sleep and many times within my day. I feel incomplete without you 💔 you took a big chunk of my heart with you that is yours & yours alone. I miss absolutely everything about you son, your smile, your chuckle, your jokes, your back breaking hugs, your presence just everything. You continue to be & will always be a big part of my day, every where I go you come to. Son, there are absolutely no words to describe how I feel now matter how hard I try, there are just no words. You are & will always be a part of me until we meet again in your space where I know you will be waiting for me where I'll get one of your back breaking hugs once more, where I won't be letting you go. Thank you for the signs you send/give me especially this past Mother's Day where in your usual style you left it right to the last minute - it made me smile and gave me some comfort knowing that you are with me always. I love you as much as the moon and the stars always son. Forever Young, Forever Missed, Forever Loved and Forever My #1 Son xxxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Hey son, gosh how can it be 16 weeks since I kissed your beautiful face & held her hand for the last time in this life. I miss absolutely everything about you son, every day is hard trying to comprehend any of this trying to figure out how to navigate and adapt in this new reality with you. I know you are with me always just not how it was. You are & will be forever in my heart until I get to hold you in my arms once again. Son you are forever missed, forever loved & forever my #1 Son xxxxxxxx
12 weeks ago today son since you got your angel wings. How it that even possible, sure doesn't feel like that for me. Feel like I'm frozen in time somehow while everyone & everything is still moving, living their lives yet mine stopped when I lost a huge part of me shattering my heart & my world forever changing me & the life I had and knew 💔 you are constantly on my mind always son & I talk to you everyday & miss everything about you, your beautiful face, your smile, your voice, your laugh, your jokes and your back breaking hugs - I just miss you beyond any words. There really are no words to describe how I feel about how much I miss you or living my life here without you son. You are and will always be with me in my heart. You will always be loved, remembered and talked of. The signs you give give me comfort knowing that you are with me. I'll be forever grateful that you choose me to be your mum, how lucky am I to have an amazing loving, kind, genuine son that has so much love for me, your family & friends - one of kind you are son. Love you as big as the moon and the stars now and always. Forever 29, Forever Young, Forever Missed, Forever Loved and Forever My #1 Son xxxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Hey son, just wanted you to know that I think about you everyday, several times a day where I feel like I'm just surviving sometimes. I talk to you throughout my day. How is it 10 weeks ago son that my world came tumbling down, pieces of my heart scattered everywhere, feeling incomplete without you. I miss you so much son & still struggle to comprehend that any of this has happened. You'll be forever in my heart, I love you with every bit of me son, that will never change xxxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Think of you everyday son, miss you beyond words, Forever & Always in my heart son. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
My most precious son, how can it be 8 weeks already son, where has that time gone. It sure has been a whirlwind of emotions, a real rollercoaster of a ride and still am struggling to comprehend any of this. I never knew I could cry so much as I have and continue to do since you suddenly got your wings to fly high. Nothing son, and I mean nothing could have prepared me for any of this, life is so unfair ay? Why is it always the good ones? You were certainly one of those with your biggest, kindest heart & soul, that gorgeous smile, your dark hair and eye lashes. You never hurt a soul, you were always there when either your family or friends needed you a real genuine kindhearted, generous spirit young man who always made time for those you loved. Gosh son, I need you like I've never needed you before. There are no words to describe how I feel, how much I miss you, I much I want to hug you and just hold you. My world has been forever changed along with my broken heart that will never mend until I see you and hold you once more. Know you are loved son with every part of me today, tomorrow, always and forever. You will be forever young, forever missed and forever my #1 Son. Love you son as big as the moon and the stars millions and millions always.
Sitting here listening to your Playlist son. Still feels so unbelievable that you aren't here with me son, I miss everything about you son much, just hearing your voice, your laugh, to see you smile and to have 1 of your big bear hugs - gosh what I'd give for these. You are constantly on my mind & in my thoughts within my day. My heart is so broken son. I love you more than words can say son,. You are forever with me in every thing I do. Love you bigtime son, now, always and forever. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Forever Young, Forever Missed, Forever Loved, Forever My Son 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
48 days son since my life changed dramatically, a change I never had planned for. My days are filled with a whirlwind of emotions, still a disbelief that this is even real. I miss you so much son, there are no words to describe how much I miss you, everything about you. You are constantly on my mind, I talk with you during the day & at bedtime telling you about my day & filling you in on what yr friends have been up to or who I've heard from. One thing that we all agree on is that you have left many broken hearts son. I miss you more than you know & I love as big as the moon & the stars now and always. Forever Young, Forever Loved, Forever My Son xxxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
A month today son we celebrated your life with your ppl, your friends, your family & chosen family. So many ppl son that came to see you showing their love & respect for you, so much love son that was all about you. You will never be forgotten son as you left your mark with so many ppl that can never be erased. You are always on my mind, forever in my heart, I just miss you so damn much there are no words to describe how much. Love you as big as the moon and the stars now, always and forever xxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
I miss you so much son, miss everything about you. Not really sure how I'm to do this without you 💔 You are always on my mind where I think about you constantly within my day, wondering how we got here, so many tears for you son, my heart is so broken 💔 Love you with all of my heart, that my son will never alter. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚 xxxxxxx
Missing you so much son, miss your voice, your smile, your chuckle, your back breaking hugs, no messages or phone calls, no more I love you millions & millions Mum - I just miss you bigtime. All these are just reminders of my new reality, a new reality that I'm not enjoying. I love you more than you'll ever know, always have, always will. xxxxxxxx
One month today son and I'm still struggling to comprehend all that has happened. Sitting here looking at your photo still in some state of I don't really know what - shock, disbelief, broken all so surreal, has this really happened, is happening? How can this be, life is and has been so cruel taking away my most beautiful, precious and loved son. How do I do life without you. I have no words to describe how I feel, all I feel is heartbroken, devasted, empty, lost, numb living in some kind of haze - this is not how it was meant to be son; this was not in my plans for you, me or us. My heart is so heavy and so broken. Missing you so much son that it makes my eyes leak yet again. The only thing I'm certain of is my love for you will never alter, I love you more than the moon and the stars now & always. Forever Young, Forever Loved, Forever My Son xxxxxxxx
Hey son, there are no words son to describe the way I feel right now, I miss you so much & think about you all day, the pain in unbearable 💔 I love you with all of my heart son and that will never change. xxxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Love you bigtime now & forever my son xxxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
When your heart stopped, my heart broke 💔
I miss you so much my boy, am struggling to comprehend all that has happened over these last 2 weeks. Today I brought you home where you will remain. There are no words son to say I how feel right now, this is not how it was meant to be, this was not in my plans for you. How do I navigate life without you in it, my heart is heavy and so broken. My love for you will never alter, I love you BIGTIME my boy and always will. Forever Young, Forever Loved, Forever My Son xxxxxxxx
Mitch, I always told Clayton that we may know many people in our time here on earth but true good friends will only come once in a lifetime, you are one of them, I want to Thank you for your true friendship to him,you were there for him in the good,bad and sometimes the ugly times,you never judged but accepted him for who he is, going to miss the stories of your adventures together,the camping,fishing,the mischief times but most of all your presence will be deeply missed,forever young,forever loved.
Mitchell, know that you are loved xx Rest in love beautiful boy xx
Shaz, Danielle and Steph…I am holding you close to my heart whilst you farewell Mitchell. I hope that in time your tears will make way for a fond smile whenever you think of Mitchell. Shaz, Mitchell is with you today. He will be walking with you everyday on your journey. I am so sorry that you lost your beautiful boy. I am always here for you. Sending you love and light. Love always, Yvette
Tìoraidh an-dràsta (goodbye for now.
Aww my Nephew was big shock to hear of yu passing,. Rest in love Mitchell💙💙 Sorry can't be there. Heaps big hugs & luvs to family😘💕💖🙏
Tomorrow my son is all about you. Never did i ever imagine that I would be doing this for you. You got your wings way to soon and maybe you were ready - I was not. Love you bigtime my #1 Son forever, you will forever be in my heart, my soul and my memories. Love you millions always xxxxxxxx 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
I am sorry I didn't get to meet you Mitchell, but the stories I have heard from your mum means that she loves you so much and she will never forget you. I am thinking of you all at this sad and emotional time. Rest in peace Mitchell
Gone to soon, so adored and cherished by his loving Mum and family. Thinking of you all at this extremly sad time. Rest in peace and love forever Mitchell 💙💙
Forever Young Forever Loved Forever My Son xxxxxxxx
Missing you so much my boy, my heart is so broken 💔 you'll always be with me and me with you always. I love you as much as the moon and the stars always xxxx

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